Here’s the best way to really annoy a regular member of a discussion forum. For best results, apply these principles to all of your members, thus creating a disharmonious “community”:

1. Ensure your administrators don’t know how to use the basic admin functions of your forum,  such as altering the default Terms & Conditions, and rules.
2. Ensure that you pick on individual members and enforce “unwritten rules” that everyone is (telepathically?) supposed to know about.
3. Ensure that your administrators don’t log in and actively steer the community for days or weeks at a time.
4. Ensure that, when a member who complains about another for any reason whatsoever, even if commercial or purely personal in nature, that the member being accused is automatically in the wrong, and must be reprimanded.
5. Ensure that your administrators and moderators are inconsistent with enforcing both written and “unwritten” rules, so that your members are never quite sure what’s acceptable and what isn’t.
6. Ensure that your administrators change members’ posts, signatures, and images, without any notification or discussion, even if that changes the context of what was said, results in factually inaccurate information, or “squishes” images because dimensions were arbitrarily altered.
7. Ensure that your administrators and moderators do not display a “united front”. Make sure that disagreements between those “in control” are argued out in public. If this causes members to take sides, so much the better.

These steps will ensure that your discussion forum thrives on negativity, confusion, and infighting. Well done!